A couple of weeks ago, my boyfriend and I went to have dinner at Mimi’s Cafe, a New Orleans themed diner, near his house. The hostess sat us in a booth off in the corner where we could chat without worries. On the way to the booth, it happened.
Let me paint the scene for you a little. I was wearing my Captain America shirt. It’s blue with the Captain’s shield right in the center. I’m sure you’ve seen it before. I think I got it at some name brand store when the first Captain America movie came out. We’re walking to our seats when an older (late 50’s maybe) man stands up, ready to leave. He takes a look at my shirt.
Him:”Wearing your boyfriend’s shirt?”
Him: “Haha” *shrug*
Shrug. As if to say, “Oh, well, you understand, little lady. See, that’s a comic shirt you’re wearing. I’m sure you’re not aware of that and it was only natural for me to assume that it was your boyfriend’s. But don’t be offended. After all, you’re a girl. It was an honest mistake.”
My reaction when we finally sat at our table: “What the f@#$? Seriously, dude. I know who the f@#$ Captain America is. I actually knew who he was before the movie came out as well. F@#$ you, dude!” My boyfriend had to calm me down.
But that seems to be a trend in society today. Girls, for some odd and strange reason, can’t be geeks. If we like video games, it’s because our boyfriends or brothers got us into them. If we like comics, we’re not real comic fans because we don’t read obscure titles from indy authors. If we like anything within the geek culture, it’s not good enough. Girls are posers and fakes. Unless we prove it.
As if being a girl in this society isn’t hard enough. Now I have to prove to you that I’m a geek.
It’s as if we’ve stumbled into some secret boy society and they aren’t comfortable with girls in their club yet. So they say things and do things so that girls will get out of their club. How’s that working for you, boys? I would imagine not so well.
Because girl geeks are true geeks. We’re passionate about the same stuff you’re passionate about. We’re knowledgable in the lore that we care about. And we’re part of the club. We’re not going anywhere. If anything, our numbers are growing as more girls become comfortable with their geekdom. As girls grow into women and those women have girls of their own, our ranks swell. We proudly say:
“I loved Firefly before Serenity came out!”
“I have beaten ever Legend of Zelda game that has come out (in the US)!”
“I’m a level 55 Gunslinger and I kick Sith ass!”
“I highlighted Harry Potter in order to map out the plot!”
“I’ve seen every episode of Star Trek: TNG!”
“I went to SDCC!”
“I read comics and manga and sci fi and fantasy!”
“I watch Arrow!”
“I knew who the f@#$ Captain America was before the movie!”
So all I really wanted to say, is gentlemen, please stop assuming that the t-shirt is our boyfriend’s. We’re geeks too. And we’re super proud of it!