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Flying Time

I’m always amazed at how fast time flies by when I’m teaching.  Seriously, wasn’t it just August.  Midterms have been taken.  Fall break is over and done.  We’re almost to Veteran’s Day and Thanksgiving break.  Then finals and winter break.  It goes by so quickly.  I know that’s kind of a cliche thing to say, but it’s also true.

It’s a weird thing to get older.  I wasn’t sure I was so aware of this when I was a teenager or even in my early twenties, but it’s kinda bizarre.  I’m sure all of my older relatives smile and laugh when they see me saying this, because I’m sure they went through it too.  At least I hope they did.  It’s something that dawns on me as a teacher from time to time.  15 years ago, I was one of those kids sitting in the classroom.  I listened to my teachers, but I secretly thought they were full of crap.  Did they have the realization that they too once thought their teachers were full of it?  Does every teacher ever realize that even as we give sage, worldly advice to our students, we realize that they will believe us or heed our advice until they are in their late twenties and early thirties?  And, of course, by then they could be giving worldly, sagely advice to a new group of teens who just couldn’t give a shit about the great things the adult was saying.  It’s a cycle of disinterest, unbelieving, realization, and then trying to pass on unwanted wisdom.

My father is chucking to himself right now as he reads this.

So time flies by us.  At the end of this month, my grandmother will turn 95 years old.  I wonder how she feels about giving advice to foolish young people who will never heed it away.  Maybe I should ask her.


Let the Festive Day of Gluttony Begin!

Happy Turkey Day, everyone!  Let’s all go stuff out faces with turkey, pie, mashed potatoes, gravy, and pie.  MORE PIE!

Oh yeah, and let’s be thankful for some stuff.  This year, I wanted to make a list of things I’m thankful for.  So, in no particle order:

My sister is getting better – She has cancer.  I wrote about it here.  But she’s going to her treatments and it looks like she’s getting better.  They won’t know for sure until they do the next set of CAT scans, but things are looking up.

I have a job that I like – Doesn’t sound like much, but I sometimes hear other people talk about their jobs and how much they don’t like them.  I really like to my job.  And most of my students.

Disneyland – That’s just a given. 😉

That special someone – You know who you are.  And you’re amazing.  And I’m so glad you’re in my life.

Family – I’m spending Thanksgiving with my parents and sister and cousin and the special someone from above.  It’s gonna be a great day.

Friends – I’m spending the first weekend of December with these people to celebrate my birthday and they are all awesome people.

Leaving my 20’s behind – That’s right, I’ll be 30 in just a few weeks.  I look back at my 20’s fondly, but I’m glad to be headed down the path of 3-0, where hopefully I’ll actually have my shit together and actually know what I’m doing and actually have a plan.  I think my 40-year self will laugh at this.

Cheers all!  Happy Thanksgiving!

The big C

My sister was diagnosed with Hodgkins Lymphoma a month or so ago.  And tonight is the first time I’ve talked to her since her diagnoses.  And I felt like both a horrible person and a horrible big sister half a second into the conversation – well, the text conversation.  She doesn’t talk on the phone much.

I don’t talk to my sister much.  The last time I had a real conservation with her was Easter dinner at our parents’ house.  We used to be close, when we were kids.  Then we grew up.  I got into my stuff: college, career, boyfriend.  I moved to San Diego for college just after she graduated from high school.  And she got into her things: school, boyfriends.  We just went our separate ways.

I moved back to Phoenix in 2010.  By that time, my sister was married and living her own life.  We went out a few times, tried to mend the bond we used to have, but it was never the same.  Actually, things got worst.  We had a bit of a falling out.  Things were said that can’t be unsaid, by both of us.  We haven’t really spoken much since.

And then she went into the hospital.  And they found cancer.

It’s weird.  I love my little sister.  Very much so.  But we aren’t close and we haven’t spoken in months.  Suddenly she gets sicks, and I’m not really sure how to act.  I also feel like a horrible sister because I haven’t seen or spoken with her.  Like I said, it’s a weird situation.  Am I supposed to suddenly forgive and forget all of the bad stuff between us?  I’m not sure how I’m supposed to feel.  Other than horrible and sad and conflicted.

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